Feeling good about yourself is ‘so’ much more important than looking good when it comes to dating.

We all know that expression, ‘you look good and you feel good, but do many of us realise that it’s not the looking good that really attracts people to us, or gives us the confidence to approach the opposite sex? No it’s the ‘by product’ that brings us success and confidence, the feeling good factor. When we’re single and looking for romance many of us will look in the mirror and feel the urge to run off to the nearest gym, throwing ourselves into impossible new ‘healthy living’ fads, all designed to give us that ‘perfect body’ in a week! And the outcome? – within a week or 2 we’ve given up, reverted back to our couch potatoe lifestyle and far more importantly our confidence has taken a knock. But it needn’t be this way, with a slightly different mindset and outlook and things could be so different.

Single Daters at the gym - you look good and you feel good!

Instead of concentrating on ‘looking good’ concentrate on ‘feeling good’ and pinch a good rule from the business world, make shorter lists that CAN be achieved rather than long lists that become IMPOSSIBLE to achieve. In the strive to feel good about yourself set modest targets that you can tick off your list each day and straight away you’ll start feeling good about yourself. And here’s the kicker, by straight away achieving your modest goals you’ll feel good, continue this way and you’ll feel more confident and want to do more!

So if you want to get fitter start by setting the goal of a mile or 2 walk, rather than trying a half marathon the first week! Do this every other day and soon it becomes a habit, after a couple of weeks try a gentle jog every couple of days, and again just for a mile or so. All achievable, and so every day you’ll begin to feel better about yourself. After a month or so look at joining a gym, but what ever you do make sure you use the staff to help you continue to set realistic goals. At home try small things to more to a healthy diet, don’t change everything overnight with a massive shop in your local health store, and don’t get suckered into buying loads of expensive ‘supplements’, just eating normally will more than feed the extra exercise in the early days.

And where will all of this lead, well because you are ticking those simple goals off your list every day/week you’re going to be feeling better about yourself from day one, and this is the key. People are attracted to positive confident people far more than by the way they look. All of us want to be in a ‘fun’ relationship, we want to be with people who always see the positive, who always seem ‘happy’, the world is full of people with great bodies and healthy lifestyles who are single because they’re never happy or satisfied, don’t be one of them, lifes way to short!

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